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[If someone says 'there is no time to rest because it compromises a goal', tantra says running and being in a hurry causes one to miss.]

[Yogis who simply fast and repeat mantras are dulling their nervous systems and ability to respond.]

[Standing on your head for extended periods overflows the tiny nerves and destroy them. Humans keep the blood flow regulated by standing, whereas animals keep their brain at body level.]

[Remaining homeless helps you find the real home. Avoid abiding anywhere and you'll abide in yourself. You can enjoy a relationship but don't cling.]

[The parable of the prodigal son] means that if you remain on the right path, you will not be celebrated by existence. You will be a simpleton, you will not be enriched by life. You will not have any salt in you; you may be nutritious, but no spices. You will be very simple, good, but your goodness will not have a complex harmony in it. You will be a single note, not millions of notes falling into a melody. You will be a straight line, with no curves and no corners. Those curves and corners give a beauty, they make life more mysterious, they give depth. You will be shallow in your sainthood, you will not have any depth in you.

[Mantra forces the causes into your unconscious, delaying transformation. Tantra awakens for better awareness.]

[The symptom is useful in that it keeps nagging you when something is wrong.]

[Never seek someone to help: only an enlightened on can help, and it flows naturally. A true master never tries to change anyone: like a subtle fragrance they surround you and enter only if you take a whiff.]

[Meditation is just coming back home to rest, not even a prayer or mantra.]

Your seeking creates a smoke around the flame. You go on running around and around, you stir much dust, and you create much smoke, and it is your own effort that stirs the dust and creates the smoke, and the flame becomes hidden. Rest a little, let the dust settle back to the earth. And if you are not running very fast, not in a hurry, you will not create smoke. By and by, things settle and the inner light is revealed.

[The idle mind is not of the devil but of God. By being empty we are able to receive.]

[You don't sleep by doing anything: when activity stops, you simply go into sleep.]

[Relaxation means the moment is enough: feeling yourself, and being present is so satisfying it's too much.]

[Activity is goal-oriented and constantly turns the present into a means for the future, thus ensuring relaxation remains on the horizon and never comes.]

[The celebrator doesn't need to create anything because everything already exists and they are grateful for the abundance.]

[Don't desire anything, including spiritual things, God, or liberation. When you are desire-less, the seed explodes.]

[Do whatever you like, but take each action with full awareness.]

[Darkness can never become ingrained because it it NOT.]

[Experiences are illusory: only the one who experiences them is true. Pay attention to the witness.]

[The sense organs are windows, not projectors.]

[Not 'one remains' but 'two is gone'.]

[Trying to not think a thought gives energy to it, and it will come back to bother you.]

[The solution is always to watch.]

[The root is never above ground: attacking the visible is like fighting shadows.]

[Mind is like a crowd: we think something larger exists but there are only the individual thoughts arranged together tightly.]

[Pay attention to the gaps between thoughts.]

[Even clinging to a thought is not possible because it will eventually die: they aren't yours and don't belong to you—just visiting.]

[Watch for things that neither come nor go, like the sky.]

[People avoid awareness by creating structures and discipline—something that takes care of you whether you are aware or not.]

[Only what happens to you is real. Avoid borrowed knowledge.]

[Knowledge, like a drug, gives you a hallucination of knowing.]

[Logic has never led anyone to truth.]

[People are scared of meditation because it is a death of the self through non-being.]

[Nothingness exists without support or creator.]

[Seek and you will not find, because seeking strengthens the ego.]

The moment you are like a hollow bamboo, the divine lips are on you, the hollow bamboo becomes a flute, and the song starts.

[Indifference is key: the same energy that becomes doubt can become trust; through indifference, you no longer pay attention to or cooperate.]

[A child who holds their father's hand neither trusts not doubts: they are undivided, not missing anything.]

[More like an experiencing than an experience: a process that begins but doesn't end.]

[Words are so dead that they cannot represent anything alive. When you really feel something, it becomes impossible to express verbally.]

[Emotionally immature people can push humor on others as opposed engaging in it to strengthen bonds.]

[Too much sarcasm can mean a closed person who fears connection.]

[Parents may be able to relax and tolerate more openness when they sense you seem strong and no longer need to win their attention or approval.]

[It's like they have a phobia of snakes and your openness and emotional connectivity are a bucket of slithery snakes.]

[Settle into a detached observational state by counting your breaths slowly, or tensing and relaxing your muscles in sequence.]

[Instead of associating them with a binary state, observe as a scientist: what words describe their facial expression? what is their body language communicating? does their voice sound calm or tense? how do they respond when you try to relate? what do you feel?]

[Getting emotional is a sign that your healing fantasy has been activated. The feeling of distress and weakness is a signal to shift into observation mode: repeat to yourself 'detach, detach, detach' and try to find the exact words to describe the experience, which can be what they're doing or how you're feeling.]

[Relatedness has no objective of a satisfying emotional exchange.]

[Internalizers don't act out their emotions immediately and instead let them foster and intensify.]

[The idea that one day they will change is a healing fantasy, created by a child's mind and not adapted to adult reality.]

[Children of emotionally immature parents create a role-self that transforms into what the parent wants them to be.]

[The role-self has no energy of its own and needs to steal from true self. It is insecure because it's made-up and afraid of being revealed as an imposter.]

[Healing fantasy of people being there for me. Role-self of being available.]

[Anger is a normal response to abandonment, and we can experience it even when feeling unseen or unheard.]

[Enmeshment is different from emotional intimacy. The former implies fulfilling roles that re-inforce dependency whereas the latter implies building trust through getting to know each other and mutual acceptance.]

[Parental rejection can result in the child lacking confidence that others can be interested in them. Instead of asking for what they want, they avoid interacting out of fear to burden someone else.]

[The need and desire for deep connection is not merely human, but genetic, coming from evolutionary imperative to be part of the group for survival.]

[Dismissively saying that one didn't mean it is a way to egocentrically focus on the intention as opposed to the negative impact of bad actions.]

[Not knowing who you are or not being given space to explore it is like having puzzle pieces that don't fit together, which results in inconsistency.]

[Inconsistency can maladaptively bond the parent and child because the once in a while there is a reward.]

[With a mature parent, the child simply goes to the parent for affectionate connection. If the parent is afraid of deep connection, the child might feel uneasy or shameful.]

[Emotional intimacy exists when the other person seeks to know you moreso than to judge you.]

[Community growth isn't about management but developing leaders.]

[If one of your hand-raisers isn't ready to lead yet, let them do something small in scope to help build reflexes and experience.]

[Map out leaders' journeys from development to growth so that you can supercharge their activities: prepare to give them the right support at the right moment.]

[Anticipate their difficulties: offer training if they have fears about first-time hosting; provide templates if they're worried it takes long to make presentations; organize resources in one place if they spend time looking for supporting documents.]

[Reach out to organizers to ask where the road bumps are.]

[Create together. Build together.]

[Give people tools to create their own badges and self-expression.]

[Avoid meticulously specifying everything. Help along rituals that emerge. Help everyone reflect on what they accomplished.]