Lessons Learned from Personal Recovery Stories
[Healing can be perceived as a threat to the wounded if it indicates that they resist changing.]
Lessons Learned from Personal Recovery Stories
[Healing can be perceived as a threat to the wounded if it indicates that they resist changing.]
Simon Wardley: An Introduction to Wardley Maps
[Maps depersonalize the strategy, which makes its discussion less political.]
The "Controlling Girlfriend" Trope and the Patriarchy of Male Excuses
[Women assumed to manage everyone's emotions means responsibility for "his promise", "his drinking", "his mother's promise", family anxiety, a friend's insult, public embarrassment, party mood, and her own hurt.]
Hostel Curfews, Patriarchy & Women's Right to the Night
[Sipping tea at night or hanging with friends without permission is political.]
[The night should belong to everyone.]
To remember to protest even if you are alone
[I do it not to change the country, but so that the county doesn't change me.]
Travel for people who love you is the only ethical way to travel at all.
[Go only where you've been invited by people who love you.]
[There is nothing to do in cities. The best part is leaving.]
[Consent and relationship are not things you can buy.]
[Tourism is visiting a "story" of the place that isn't relational.]
DAVE CHAPPELLE in His Own Words: Fame, Family & Finding Balance
[The laughs of my mother, grandmother, and grandfather sounded like music, and it's one of the reasons I wanted to be funny: to hear that beauiful music.]
Harry Mack: How To Improve Free Association
[Practice free association with your notes app by making a list starting with any word and following it with whatever comes to mind. Try to be non-judgemental. More important that it makes sense to you than to other people. When you're comfortable to try with a beat, you can just fill space with "uhh" or other rhythmic sounds and simply land on your next word to practice changing in time.]
Music training really trains you to break things down into manageable parts. Teaching well exposes the atomic elements of a practice so that you can find the right entry point for your level of skill or experience.
Harry Mack: How To Get Better At Freestyle Rapping - Setup, Punchline
[Practice is strategically targetting your weaknesses to help them improve over time.]
[Wanting to sound great means willing to sound bad so that you can practice.]
[Deciding what object in the room you'll freestyle about and what to call it takes up mental RAM that could be spared if you use a simple word generator to practice.]
When you notice conflict or strong emotions being minimized, beware.
[Appeasement is always a red flag in relationships.]
I was a 10x engineer. Now I'm useless.
[There's no middle ground where you only decide to do crack on Mondays and Wednesdays.]
Let's talk about Trump, 200 billion dollars, and a promise....
[Running countries like a business means the shareholders (financial donors) are best served when the company (government) extracts as much as possible from consumers (you) while providing little in return.]
Is the story of your relationship true?
[We can still over-weigh past hurt in our relationships even after repair.]
[At any given moment, relationships contain eight combined narratives, from
- you: about yourself, your partner, and the relationship
- your partner: about themselves, you, and the relationship
- the relationship itself: about you, and your partner]
Vandana Shiva | On Cultivating Fearlessness
[Just as yield doesn't measure agricultural productivity, mechanistic thinking is a poor fit for the living world.]
[When you try to make things better, what seems a small contribution can have multiple ramifications because our world is interconnected. Being overwhelmed by your actions seeming insignifican is a result of conditioning from mechanical thinking that reduces us to isolated entities. We don't carry the world on are backs, we are just one of a trillion species that each creating microscopic impacts.]
[Mechanical thinking conditions us into believing that things are separated so that it can sell us natural things as products we can buy repeatedly forever.]
[We're trained to consume, and consider living without unsustainable products to be a "sacrifice". But if living within natural restaint can be a source of satisfacion and peace, and freedom from the insatiable desire for more, it's really consumption that requires us to "sacrifice".]
[I asked strangers in Egypt who they would apologize to if they could.]
Beyond Horseless Carriages: Building Communities for the Decentralized Era
[Fediverse: communities of 50–100 people, "a slightly bigger group chat". Bluesky: planet-scale network. What could go in between? Blacksky is 'Reddit-sized' or like a large forum at around 100–200k people.]
[Moderation can also be a form of "community care" that people actually enjoy and appreciate, rather than just a task to be done.]
[Contradictory when almost nobody in the community does moderation or understands the primitives, yet most seem to think it's decentralized. If the main provider goes away tomorrow, will you know how to keep the infrastructure running?]
[People are busy and have kids: they don't need to know what a PDS is.]
[Build what helps people find joy and feel good about themselves.You can't scare them into using decentralized tech "for their own good".]
UI/UX Benefits and Trade-Offs of Local-First Apps
[Beware generic solutions: they don't know your needs.]
[Instead of directing users to "please resolve this conflict", the UI could say "Bob made a different suggestion"]
15 years of Local First: a best-of report from the field
[When humanity's achievements are tabulated a hundred years from now, the Ebola vaccine will be listed, and I'm proud that our work with CouchDB and offline-first software helped make it happen.]
[Documentation is a 10x multiplier for your development speed.]
How Indian students end up exploited in Germany
[Indian students come to Germany sold on a vision of prosperity by expensive private university marketing, then find themselves unable to leave and forced into delivery work.]
[Delivery companies like Uber Eats and Wolt rely on 3rd party agencies to recruit and hire drivers as 4th party contractors. These agencies interact anonymously through WhatsApp numbers, make arrangements to pay in cash at sketchy locations (often less than anticipated), then regularly declare bankruptcy before starting the scheme again to avoid paying taxes or social security.]
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