Let's talk about tactics to reach a different hesitant demographic....
[Contrarians can try to describe who's benefiting from this conspiracy without saying 'they', being specific.]
[Intuition may not always be accurate, or people might not be listening to it.]
[Envy-contempt sublimation is the transformation of envy into something more flattering or socially acceptable.]
Dr. Robert Sapolsky: Science of Stress, Testosterone & Free Will
[Higher aggression and sexual activity is a cause of, rather than an effect of testosterone.]
[More-so than my guitar player thing, I do music, and closely after, I'm a band leader. I try to create spaces for other people to do interesting things.]
[You can go to college for four years to study harmony, or rhythm, but not melody.]
[Improvise using the structure of Happy Birthday.]
[Melody is the way things go together. As you flow easily in conversation, flow from one musical idea to another.]
[Melody can be a way to share a cool thing you found, introducing and describing and showing examples.]
[I want to understand how the music I love works.]
[Every night I would take ten pages of notes about the songs we played.]
[Most of the people who are going to check your stuff out are not born yet.]
[I never play any two notes at the same volume.]
Male Rivalry: Sex, Testosterone and Antlers
[Women do problem-solving while cooking together but it isn't considered as such.]
The Transformative Power Of A Single Invitation
[What was a time in the last year where you felt most alive? What's a big life lesson you learned and how did you learn it? How are you similar or different from who you were as a sixteen year old?]
[To only express hopes, dreams, or values in the form of invitations.]
Let's talk about my morning routine and plot holes....
[Does it make sense? Is it feasable? Is it logistically plausible? Does the motive match the ends? Are there plot holes? If all that checks out, look at their 'evidence'.]
[How would I do it if I was the mastermind?]
Can I Get Some Feedback on That, Please?
[Be on your own side.]
[A can see you're trying to do x, y, z. Here's what seems to be helping with that. Recognize that they're doing their best.]
[Sometimes asking for feedback might be asking for permission.]
[Might be easier to receive exact feedback directed at someone else because you know they received it.]
The Age of Community: Building, Growing and Changing the World
[Each person nominates the next person to introduce themselves, distribute the responsibility of delegating.]
[Sometimes things happen through second and third-order effects and you need to simply turn your back on the main thing.]
[An interest community can also be a place to make friends.]
[A community never dies because the principles that led to its coming together are still in play.]
[Empower and showcase.]
[Some domains like pottery still take time and do not change as technical paradigms accelerate. Email was slow but now is fast whereas making a pot takes days.]
[This is your community, take charge of it.]
[Suggest one project that inspires you.]
[Low hanging fruit can be industries that don't engage with people that are like you.]
John Collison – Growing the Internet Economy
[Products that succeed in the United States are not the same as those that succeed in other countries. The local customs in Indonesia, or even in the UK, can necessitate a different approach.]
The Art of Productive Disagreement
[Being civil, skirting around difficult topics isn't enough.]
[Disagreement is rarely about facts, but about values.]
[Seeing what happens, making a prediction and then wait, implies there's nothing to argue about. Everyone learns something. It's a way of creating rituals.]
[Celebrate cognitive dissonance from being wrong because it's a sign of learning.]
[In new spaces, ask what is nobody allowed to talk about. The closer it is to the surface, the more taboo it might be.]
[Put the facts aside: what does each party want? what do they think is going to happen? How much is it going to change the future? Let's check back in a month, no rush to solve this, we'll still be friends, it's about our relationship.]
[Biases are functional and everyone needs them to survive.]
James Baldwin - The Struggle of The Artist (1969)
[If artists struggle while also having their work, it must be impossible for those who do not have the outlet.]
Building real bonds amongst diverse groups of strangers
[Get everyone to send a fun fact about themselves. Give everyone someone else's fact. Ask them to find their person.]
[Create a world that people want to come into and explore without you being there.]
[Worlds provide challenges for people and communicate what the next step is.]
[Challenges that you embrace and overcome can help create an identity.]
Sparks Between Us: Step Into The Comfort Inn
[Intimate when a performer is so absorbed in their own experience that they forget about their surroundings, the audience becomes observers.]
[I adore you.]
[I love everyone by default.]
Toastmasters: Still thriving 100 years into its history
[The first meeting is free.]
[Newer people helped by more seasoned people to create mentir relationships.]
[Toastmasters are interested in self-improvement while also carrying other people with them.]
[It's popular in Asia because people want to practice their English.]
[Making it fun is more important than the educational aspect.]
[There's always room in the front row, most people avoid it and lurk from the back.]
[Nobody gets paid, but they gain experience that creates dividends in other aspects.]
[People shy about lacking experience are prime candidates for growth by practicing leadership.]
Bring your own client with Geoffrey Litt
[Despite having invented an infinitely flexible medium, we've all settled on small groups of people making something and throwing it over a wall for the others to use.]
[The secondary market of module providers is often more important than end-user programming possibilities itself.]
Designing our way out of this mess
[People with this knowledge are not in front of computers most of the day, so what is available does not reflect the knowledge.]
Let's talk about baby bonds and generational wealth....
[Americans always do the right thing, after they've tried everything else.]
[When the moral argument fails, appeal to economics: it's generally cheaper to be a good person.]
[Twitter enables direct exchange between thoughts, independent of the people.]
[Twitter and TikTok enable content threads.]
[When me and the person I know are conversing on twitter, the third person that doesn't know is is watching. A performance for our shared mutuals.]
[We went from an oral culture where everything disappears, to a written culture, and now as text is less necessary we are moving toward an oral culture where everything is permanent.]
[People LARPing doing their day job in the real world to earn the money that enables them to participate in their imagined world, like Burning Man.]
[People pretending that they want things in public because they think other people want them is the source of many problems.]
[Lying is more cognitively demanding, you actually burn more sugar.]
[Every child is like a traveller arriving from somewhere else.]
[How to encourage a group to feel the camaraderie of 'we did it'?]
