dominating someone in a weaker position is the opposite of a flex

whichever side you take, someone profits from the merch

Men & Grief

[All grief is one: like touching the ocean at any of the imaginary lines we've drawn, it's all one body of water.]

[When my partner senses that I'm holding back grief and invites me with a simple gesture like a hand on the shoulder, it's hard to meet them there but I try to anyway, because to say "no worries, everything's fine" would be to negate their good instincts for how I'm feeling.]

[I appreciate things that make me cry because they give me the chance to shed a few more of the tears repressed during childhood, when I had learned that doing so was dangerous.]

tuning out of algorithmic feeds and advertising as if they're unwanted messages from unknown people.

When does it make sense to focus on not liking someone's approach versus accepting and appreciating diverse ways?

[Journalism has a chance to present culture in a psychological order that helps us orient, but often submits to promotional calendars resulting in bestseller lists and cinema charts, as if popularity would be the most useful factor in making decisions.]

[Choosing of what we wish to be informed requires knowing ourselves well enough to not selectively ignore what we need; perhaps it's a position that could be prepared for with therapy.]

[Political news could draw us into how our society works and equip us to improve it intelligently. World news could humanize foreign cultures and add context beyond dramatic events to help break us from fixating too locally. Economic news could go beyond standard figures to instill understanding of the human realities behind our goods. Celebrity news could be refocused on people from who we can learn how to be better and realize our own talents. Disaster news could help us feel grateful for every pain-free moment. Consumer news could point us to what can help us live a more fulfilling existence.]

[As humans evolved from a time where not much would change, where when something that did might be important or deadly, we need to readjust our perceptions to clarify that what is novel is not always important.]

[We most desperately avoid introspection when forming awkward but vital ideas, and that's when the news grabs us.]

[Not everything we need to round ourselves out can be found in the present; for some perspectives we will need to look to the past for ideas that will still be in our thoughts tomorrow.]

[Children, wildlife, and heavenly expanse of the galaxies can give us relief from the news-induced self absorption that our time and moment is the most important.]

Art is a tool to help us with a number of psychological frailties which we would otherwise have trouble handling: our inability to understand ourselves, to laugh sagely at our faults, to empathize with and forgive others, to accept the inevitability of suffering without falling prey to a sense of persecution, to remain tolerably hopeful, to appreciate the beauty of the everyday and to prepare adequately for death.