The "Controlling Girlfriend" Trope and the Patriarchy of Male Excuses
[Women assumed to manage everyone's emotions means responsibility for "his promise", "his drinking", "his mother's promise", family anxiety, a friend's insult, public embarrassment, party mood, and her own hurt.]
Hostel Curfews, Patriarchy & Women's Right to the Night
[Sipping tea at night or hanging with friends without permission is political.]
[The night should belong to everyone.]
To remember to protest even if you are alone
[I do it not to change the country, but so that the county doesn't change me.]
Travel for people who love you is the only ethical way to travel at all.
[Go only where you've been invited by people who love you.]
[There is nothing to do in cities. The best part is leaving.]
[Consent and relationship are not things you can buy.]
[Tourism is visiting a "story" of the place that isn't relational.]
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"I'd rather be a reference to my community than recognized by a title that's specific to one context."
DAVE CHAPPELLE in His Own Words: Fame, Family & Finding Balance
[The laughs of my mother, grandmother, and grandfather sounded like music, and it's one of the reasons I wanted to be funny: to hear that beauiful music.]
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Not ordinary to take hard decisions that no one around would take.
tries to trip the master and gets tripped
middle eastern jazz with microtonal piano, occasionally some Mehldau-style punching and counterpoint
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Seeking truth means addressing contradictions that you can't resolve, which might be less comfortable.
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Feeling like you are responsible for and to the world gives you the strength to see past false narratives.
nicely obnoxious swingy free jazz
don't blame the beginner if you know better
[On the internet in 1993…] There was no advertising, and no talk of money. I met someone who said he wanted to make money online, and I tried to explain to him that that’s not what the internet is about. It’s a free helpful place where everyone contributes and benefits from others’ contributions.
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Languages help you empathize instead of feeling offended.
