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139 entries under "talk"

Thursday, November 23, 2023

Is this something we have to agree on?

[Avoid getting into a heated argument by 1) asking if this is something we need to agree on, as often it’s not the case; 2) pulling the brake of “well, maybe so” to acknowledge it’s possible they’re right, sometimes all they wanted to hear; 3) lowering your voice and slowing down your words if they do the opposite.]

push the eject button

[Politely end a conversation by: 1) acknowledging you need to interrupt; 2) moving to another room (like the bathroom); and 3) cuing an end with “thanks for sharing”.]

A lot of us eat oranges and throw out the peels..

[Pack a jar with orange peels, fill with vinegar, and let sit in a cool dark place. After two weeks, strain into a spray bottle. The D-limonene combined with vinegar is a naturally powerful household cleaner.]

Wednesday, November 22, 2023

How to start a movement | Derek Sivers

[The first follower transforms someone else from lone nut to leader, thereby giving legitimacy to the movement. Have courage to be that follower, as it isn’t always easy, but it can help set the wheels of change in motion.]

[Treat the first followers as equals so that the movement takes precedence over the leader.]

Tuesday, November 21, 2023

for the unwanted table talk

[Pass over unwanted conversation by saying 1) “that subject isn’t for me”, as with food you don’t eat; 2) “good to know” and “that’s interesting”, to acknowledge without agreeing; and 3) “I typically avoid this discussion”, to communicate it’s not singling them out. Nobody can force you to talk about anything you don’t want to talk about.]

Monday, November 20, 2023

So many of us throw these things out..

[Instead of wasting the ends of these veggies, grow something from them.]

[Lettuce and celery bottoms can be cut around two inches and half submerged with sticks in a cup of water (ideally filtered).]

[Take one stick of basil, remove the bottom leaves, cut the bottom of the stem at a forty-five degree angle, and place the top part in a shot glass for three days. When it grows roots, plant it in soil.]

[Green onions or scallions can be planted directly in soil to regrow in about six days.]

[Carrot tops can be cut to about an inch and planted directly in soil.]

Friday, November 17, 2023

don’t feed the complaint, funnel it out.

[Complaints generally mask a larger underlying issue. Help them to get it all out by saying ’tell me more’ and repeating until they’re empty. Then guide them towards a solution with phrases like “How do you resolve this?”, “What’s the answer?”, “How do you usually handle this?”, “How have you addressed this in the past?”]

Monday, November 13, 2023

Garlic + Honey = Magic for your health!

[Peel the cloves in a head of garlic filling about a third of a jar. Fill about three quarters with honey and seal standing upside down at room temperature. After about five dais it will start to bubble. Open every three days to ‘burp’ or release gas. After thirty days it should darken and reduce into a remedy you can take (one spoon a day) to fight cold and flu.]

Super cool ways to use onion peels!

[Many uses for onion peels. Soak in boiling water for fifteen minutes for a sedative tea that can help you sleep. Let sit overnight until the water turns amber and conserve in a spray bottle for relieving itchy skin. Dry and grind to a powder to use in your cooking.]

Friday, November 10, 2023

How to take a lime seed and turn it into a tree!

[Soak the seed in water for six hours. Cut off the tip, peel the outer layer, and plant in half inch deep of loosely covering soil. Mist and cover with a shot glass to increase humidity until sprouting. When six inches tall with some leaves, transplant to a bigger pot

How to Upcycle those fallen leaves!

[Instead of throwing out leaves from a garden, wash and dry them, then break them down, and finally grind into a powder. The micro-nutrients enrich and fluff the soil for grass and plants to grow better.]

Thursday, November 9, 2023

How to prevent getting sick as often..

[Mix one teaspoon turmeric, half teaspoon ginger, one teaspoon vanilla essence, and half cup of honey into a syrup and stir in a pinch of pepper. Take one teaspoon daily as a natural antibiotic to help with cough, headache, cold, and flu.]

Let’s talk about what peace will look like and news for the next generation….

[When the slogans that people shout are more important than the lives of a future generation, it guarantees the continuation of horror.]

[Peace in this conflict will mean heartbreak, rather than celebration, as authorities tell the families of victims that their cases will no longer be investigated.]

Birds Aren’t Real? How a Conspiracy Takes Flight

[The crisis of belief can only be addressed after the crisis of belonging.]

Tuesday, November 7, 2023

Conflict is potential

[Reacting reduces potential in a conflict.]

[Presenting multiple perspectives of an argument says nothing nor does it engage with reason.]

[The underlying motive of proving one’s experience as correct is to resist relationship with the other side.]

[Stereotypes and dogma confuse us into thinking there needs to be a winning side.]

[Focus on feelings, sensations, experiences over judgement.]

Monday, November 6, 2023

The Roads to Reaction and Response

[Doing ‘something’ as a reaction to moral injury isn’t always the right move.]

[Hot takes feed the cycle of reaction.]

[Algorithms ensure everyone has an audience, no matter how small.]

[Your desire to ‘just do something’ will be co-opted by those in power to ends that aren’t in your interest.]

Sunday, November 5, 2023

Daryl Davis on Reforming Over 200 ‘Ku Klux Klan’ Members - by Befriending Them

[Five core universal values underlie human interaction: to be loved, respected, heard, treated fair, and to want the same for one’s family.]

[Treating neo-Nazism as a culture without justifying it enables you to approach the people as with any other culture.]

[Avoid focusing on destruction, hate, or fear as they are symptoms. The root cause of ignorance, cured through education and exposure, will get symptoms under control.]

[How to be offended by insults from someone who doesn’t know you? They have no credibility.]

[Allow people time and space to marinate with ideas, avoid impatience. Even if they don’t like you, they might give you a return visit, and that’s what you want. Don’t destroy your credibility by lying.]

[Find and build upon the commonalities.]

Tuesday, October 3, 2023

Tumblr CEO Matt Mullenweg on open-sourcing social media

[People say they want to use social media less, but why don’t they say they want to blog, or hear music, or make art less?]

Saturday, September 16, 2023

AI and Desire - The Existential Coach

[We are the parents of AI and might consider what kind of family it is being brought into.]

[Asking for regulation of AI by people who don’t understand it is just PR.]

[Using the doctrine of survival to justify harm to ourselves and others.]

[AI is a mirror showing us how we treat one another.]

Friday, August 18, 2023

Introduction to Arabic, Track 12

Writing words down creates an external loop that becomes part of your process and means you aren’t building affordances to recall without it.